Help: Someone Died! What Do I Say Or Do?

I posted this on Facebook on November 17, 2015, and within a day it had been seen by over 1 million people and shared over 6k times. So I figured it was time to put it in a blog so it can be referred to again and again. You asked for a quick and straightforward list to review when the …

For The Woman At War With Her Body

I spent years at war with my body. At the time, I believed the war was external, caught up within numbers on scales, clothing brands and measurements. My value, my worth, and my life seemed to fluctuate with the rise and fall of numbers that nobody knew, or honestly cared about, except for me. As it turns out my war …

The Path to Self-Forgiveness

A few years ago I read an article about forgiveness and there was a piece of it that resonated with me: “Anger, bitterness, resentment and vengeance can rob our very existence of any semblance of contentment” It made me reflect on my personal ability to forgive. I must admit, I tend to hold onto resentment a bit too long sometimes. I …

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Love Is Love – Blending a Family Through The Eyes of a Teenager

The blog below was written by our thirteen-year-old bonus daughter Haven. It has not been changed or edited by her parents in any way. I sure hope it helps some of you understand the mindset of a kid in a blended family. Our family has many dimensions, Haven and Kane have lived through divorce, while Addison and Matthew have lived …

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Living Without Those You Can’t Live Without

You are living without the person you can’t possibly have lost. The loneliness can’t be captured in any word, phrase or song. It’s palpable, breathtaking and seemingly void of all reality. It’s cold, cruel and takes your heart to a level of pain you didn’t even realize existed before death laid its cold hand on your barely beating heart. There …

Embrace the Past and Forge the Future

We stand on the doorstep of a New Year full of fresh opportunity and exciting adventures. The door is wide open and full of bright light. We stop for a moment and embrace the warmth and sunshine that fills us with new life. There is so much hope and promise as we head into a fresh year, and we vow …

How His Proposal Felt – Loving After Loss

December 22…. Five years ago tonight, by a quiet fireplace he looked deep into my eyes and asked me to be his wife. He was well aware of my journey thus far, my pain, my heartache, my young children, his children, my PTSD, the walls I’d built around my heart and my willingness, to this point, to open myself up …

Building Resiliency in Kids After Loss

The single hardest thing for me to accept on that fateful night after being told of his plane crash, where the many thoughts and fears that surrounded the lives of our small children. How would they survive without him?How would they ever be whole and happy again?How badly would they hurt for the rest of their life?Would they still be …

Chocolate Chia & Berry Breakfast Pudding

This is so tasty and as easy as it comes. I prep it the night before and throw all the ingredients together and mix well (I blend in my Vitamix). Enjoy!!! Ingredients 1 cup of Almond, Coconut, or Cashew Milk 2 TBSP of Chia Seeds 1 tsp Vanilla or Almond Extract 2 tsp Coconut Sugar 1 TBSP Cacao Powder Optional …

Surviving The Holidays: 12 Tips For The Grieving

My late husband passed away in early October 2009, and within two weeks I dealt with my daughter’s third birthday. Six weeks after that was our first Thanksgiving without Mitch, and a month later, Christmas. Wow, talk about being hit with an emotional sledgehammer. The holidays are hard on people even without the added pain of grief. Please know, there …