Recent Parkland and Sandy Hook Suicides Prove: There is No Timeline for Grief

By Guest Contributor – Mary Kate Tischler https://badasswidow.wordpress.com When I’m not playing the role of the Badass Widow, I am a lawyer for network news. That means I read more than my fair share about death. So much so that I’m largely desensitized to it at this point, as I’m sure many of you are, too. Even working on reports about …

The Progress of Grief

Progress – When I Googled it, the example sentence was, “The darkness did not stop my progress.” How appropriate is that?! If you’re reading this post, it’s safe for me to assume that you’ve lost someone you love at some point. And you’ve likely experienced or are experiencing that darkness (which can be especially difficult during the holidays). Maybe you …

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TO LOVE THE BROKEN

I stand before you… broken.  My heart has endured a level of pain that no words created for humanity can adequately capture. To understand the anguish, you must walk the road of the bereaved. It’s as if my soul had been swallowed by an immense dark, deep and an endless black hole. The lack of light has left me unsure …

Healing Grief Through the Power of Endorphins

(An excerpt from my best-selling book, Healthy Healing) Sitting on a beautiful beach in Los Cabos, Mexico, I hit my personal rock bottom. I remember sitting there, looking out at the beautiful turquoise sea, and thinking that all I wanted to do was curl up and cry. For the first time in my entire life, I hated myself, and the …

Finding Magic and Becoming Your Own Superhero

The darkness will come, and it will envelop all that you are and take what feels like your very last breath to survive. It is all but guaranteed. Not one person escapes this life without personal pain and difficult days. We all know loss, we all learn grief. It may look different for each person but loss is loss and …

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Living Without Those You Can’t Live Without

You are living without the person you can’t possibly have lost. The loneliness can’t be captured in any word, phrase or song. It’s palpable, breathtaking and seemingly void of all reality. It’s cold, cruel and takes your heart to a level of pain you didn’t even realize existed before death laid its cold hand on your barely beating heart. There …

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The Empty Chair

You stand in a room full of the usual hustle and bustle of the holidays. Love and gratitude are the theme and memories flood in faster than you can process them. Sights Sounds Smells It’s all so much, and you are so tired at the depths of your soul. Grief is exhausting and the holidays are daunting. The people in …

Building Resiliency in Kids After Loss

The single hardest thing for me to accept on that fateful night after being told of his plane crash, where the many thoughts and fears that surrounded the lives of our small children. How would they survive without him?How would they ever be whole and happy again?How badly would they hurt for the rest of their life?Would they still be …

Surviving The Holidays: 12 Tips For The Grieving

My late husband passed away in early October 2009, and within two weeks I dealt with my daughter’s third birthday. Six weeks after that was our first Thanksgiving without Mitch, and a month later, Christmas. Wow, talk about being hit with an emotional sledgehammer. The holidays are hard on people even without the added pain of grief. Please know, there …

Stifled Grief: How The West Has It Wrong

The reality is you will grieve in some capacity for the rest of your life. Once loss touches you-you are forever changed despite what society tells you. Stop looking at the expectations of an emotionally numbed society as your threshold and measuring stick for success.By Michelle Steinke-Baumgard, ContributorOne Fit Widow After nearly seven years of personal experience surrounding loss, I …