Recent Parkland and Sandy Hook Suicides Prove: There is No Timeline for Grief

By Guest Contributor – Mary Kate Tischler https://badasswidow.wordpress.com When I’m not playing the role of the Badass Widow, I am a lawyer for network news. That means I read more than my fair share about death. So much so that I’m largely desensitized to it at this point, as I’m sure many of you are, too. Even working on reports about …

The Progress of Grief

Progress – When I Googled it, the example sentence was, “The darkness did not stop my progress.” How appropriate is that?! If you’re reading this post, it’s safe for me to assume that you’ve lost someone you love at some point. And you’ve likely experienced or are experiencing that darkness (which can be especially difficult during the holidays). Maybe you …

Finding Magic and Becoming Your Own Superhero

The darkness will come, and it will envelop all that you are and take what feels like your very last breath to survive. It is all but guaranteed. Not one person escapes this life without personal pain and difficult days. We all know loss, we all learn grief. It may look different for each person but loss is loss and …

BROWN EYED BOY

BROWN EYED BOY My kids go to school about a mile from where my husband’s plane went down. It’s an excellent school with a fantastic reputation, but for a few moments after Addy got a spot on the waiting list I had reservations about going there simply due to proximity. The airport is a busy one with 2 flight schools …

DEAR WIDOW POLICE – I WON’T REVOKE MY CARD

DEAR WIDOW POLICE – I WON’T REVOKE MY CARD  LOVING AGAIN, CHAPTER 2, GRIEF COMPARISON, DEALING THE DAMAGE OF LOSS Nearly ten years ago I was given exclusive membership to one of the world’s crappiest clubs. October 9th, 2009 – the day I went from being half of M & M, Mrs. Michelle Steinke, and the wife of Mitchel Steinke to becoming a …

I CAN’T FIX THIS

I CAN’T FIX THIS My son was 13 months when he lost his father. He holds no memories of his daddy and never asks questions or brings him up. He is a happy, well-adjusted, smart, and lovable five years old. He just also happens to be a kid who’s dad died way too young. Truth be told, I don’t worry …

SAY THEIR NAME

He was one of the most important parts of my life for more than fifteen years. We traveled, we explored, we lived and loved. He made me his wife, and I made him my husband. We welcome two beautiful kids into the world, built a house and lived our dream. He held my hand when I cried, and he kissed …

FIVE THINGS EVERY WIDOWED PARENT WISH YOU KNEW ABOUT BACK TO SCHOOL

Tomorrow I send my babies back to school….again. It’s an exciting night for homes across the country, as kids prepare for a new year and parents trust their chosen school and teachers to help guide their children for a few hours each day. Outfits are laid out by the bed; school supplies purchased, and anticipation looms for both kids and …

THE WORLD LOVES MANGO!!

MANGO LOVE!!! THE WORLD LOVES MANGO!! Did you know that MORE fresh mangos are eaten every single day around the world than any other fruit??? As an American that blows my mind. Our country sees to be obsessed with bananas and apples but are we missing out on the mango love??? My kids LOVE mango and we eat it weekly, …

SENDING THEM TO SCHOOL, AFRAID

SENDING THEM TO SCHOOL, AFRAID It is that time of the year again. The time when we send our children off to school to learn, to grow, to socialize, to develop mentally, physically, and emotionally. School is not a replacement for the personal growth happening at home, but we would be short-sided if we didn’t believe that eight hours of …