Stifled Grief: How the West Has It Wrong

After nearly seven years of personal experience surrounding loss, I can tell who is going to read, share and comment on this article and it’s not necessarily the audience I’ve intended. Those who have walked the horrific road of loss will shake their collective heads “Yes” at many of my points below and share with pleads for the rest of the Western World to read, learn, evolve and embrace these concepts. Unfortunately, my words will fall short for my intended (read more…)

Broken Moments: Grieving on Mother’s Day

  Welcome to one of the days of the year where many feel the duality of life’s happiest and hardest moments in the deepest of ways. Mother’s Day is celebrated as a day to value mom’s around the world and honor all that they are but for many men and women, it is a double edge sword of broken moments. I’m a mother of seven children. Two of my kids born to me and my late husband Mitch, two of (read more…)

The Man that Came After

You were not in the plan. My story did not write the way I penned it. I penned happily ever after. I penned the fairytale ending with the same man I married at 27 in a seaside chapel on the Big Island of Hawaii. I penned one man, one love, and one life. My pen stopped working at 36, and I was forced to re-write my story in the middle. My story up to that point had been a best-selling (read more…)

New Year’s Baby Steps

I’m not a fan of resolutions, but I am a fan of taking daily baby steps towards the life we all want to lead. In that spirit, I’m listing below my personal goals for 2016.  Many of these goals are small and easy to achieve if I just focus on my daily list, and some of these goals are enormous and will take millions of baby steps to reach. I hope my personal list inspires you to write a list (read more…)

The Christmas Letters

One of my greatest regrets is that my late husband never wrote our kids a special letter telling them just how much he loved them. His death was an accident so we didn’t know better – we didn’t expect him to go. I’d love to be able to bring that special letter out when they are sad or missing him but that’s just not possible. It’s been six years and despite knowing better I’ve never written a letter to my (read more…)

An UnCluttered Christmas

Mom and Dad guilt? Who’s ever had that? So many reasons we all carry guilt; death, divorce, financial stress, lack of personal time with our kids.  The holidays come and somehow we think if we buy them more stuff it may just make up for the losses in their little lives. I remember so clearly the first few Christmases after my late husband Mitch died. Talk about going overboard with stuff! I was so guilty of trying to replace his absence (read more…)

44 Things I Learned By 44

Today I turn 44 years old, and what I’m about to tell you may seem cliché, but it’s all true.  I’ve lived through some serious crap in my life but it has made me who I am, and truth be told – I’ve never been better or loved myself more. Honestly, I’ve never been better. I’ve been younger I’ve been thinner I’ve been heavier I’ve had fewer wrinkles and less gray eyebrows (not sure what my actual hair color is) I’ve been (read more…)