The Man That Came After

You were not in the plan. My story did not write the way I penned it. I penned happily ever after. I composed the fairytale ending with the same man I married at 27 in a seaside chapel on the Big Island of Hawaii. I penned one man, one love, and one life. My pen stopped working at 36, and …

DEAR WIDOW POLICE – I WON’T REVOKE MY CARD

DEAR WIDOW POLICE – I WON’T REVOKE MY CARD  LOVING AGAIN, CHAPTER 2, GRIEF COMPARISON, DEALING THE DAMAGE OF LOSS Nearly six years ago I was given exclusive membership to one of the world’s crappiest clubs. October 9th, 2009 – the day I went from being half of M & M, Mrs. Michelle Steinke, and the wife of Mitchel Steinke to becoming a …

FIVE THINGS EVERY WIDOWED PARENT WISH YOU KNEW ABOUT BACK TO SCHOOL

Tomorrow I send my babies back to school….again. It’s an exciting night for homes across the country, as kids prepare for a new year and parents trust their chosen school and teachers to help guide their children for a few hours each day. Outfits are laid out by the bed; school supplies purchased, and anticipation looms for both kids and …

REPAIR OR REPLACE? LIFE, LOVE AND THE PURSUIT OF PERFECT FLOORS

REPAIR OR REPLACE? LIFE, LOVE AND THE PURSUIT OF PERFECT FLOORS After I married Keith, we moved to Montana from Arizona, and we built a sweet little house out on some land. We wanted a place the kids could stretch their legs, play and explore. The house was a ton of hard work, especially for my husband Keith, who did …

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RAISING CHILDREN YOU DIDN’T CREATE

OCT27 RAISING CHILDREN YOU DIDN’T CREATE You didn’t help create them. You didn’t hold my hand over the nine months as they formed. You didn’t help pick their cribs, their names, or their first outfit. You weren’t there at their birth. You didn’t drive them home from the hospital. You didn’t rock them to sleep over their first year of …

THE #1 BEST THING ABOUT BEING WIDOWED!

THE #1 BEST THING ABOUT BEING WIDOWED! I’ll save you all the work of scrolling down through this text to find the answer to the teaser that is in the title of this blog. The best thing about being Widowed is: OTHER PEOPLE’S JUDGEMENT Whaaaaaaat?! Yes. Other people judging you is the number one best part of widowhood (having permission …

TELL ME ABOUT MY DADDY….

TELL ME ABOUT MY DADDY…. “Mommy, tell me about my Daddy please.” She looked at me with her big blue eyes, and she didn’t falter. It was the evening of her eleventh birthday, and the first time in eight years she had ever asked me to sit down and tell her about her Father. We talk about him often; he …

PICKING OUR BATTLES

Nearly three years ago I married my now husband Keith and added two amazing kids to my life. Keith, of course, added two kids to his life as well and we became a blended family of six. It’s complicated, as any mixed situation can be, with widowhood and divorce, but we opted to make the most of it and combine …

MARRYING A WIDOW

MARRYING A WIDOW This post was written in 2014 by Keith, Michelle’s fiance just a few weeks before their marriage. In a few days, I will be marrying my beautiful fiancee, Michelle. She will become my wife, but I am not so sure I will be the only man she thinks about for the rest of her life. In fact, …

STOP COMPARING DEATH AND DIVORCE

STOP COMPARING DEATH AND DIVORCE Please just stop. A few weeks after my late husband passed away was my first preview into the competitive world of, whats worse, death or divorce? and it made me infuriated. Here I was, a newly grieving widow, dealing with the end of life stuff, shock, two tiny children and tons of grief and someone …