one fit widow

Occasionally I write a blog that makes people mad. I guess this blog might anger some and stir up strange feelings in others. That's okay. I'm not always going to say what you want to hear but maybe, just perhaps, I am saying something you NEED to hear.

I share a lot on social media, and that vulnerability has been helpful for many, but sometimes it seems to cause resentment in others. I often hear how "lucky" I am to be able to do what I do, or travel as I have, or be remarried after the loss of my late husband. It comes from having a big social media following, and it's part of the process.

Just like many of you, I follow people on social media that I respect, appreciate, and learn from, and many of them have had similar "luck" like ...

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Broken Moments

By Michelle

Welcome to one of the days of the year where many feel the duality of life's happiest and hardest moments in the deepest of ways. Mother's Day is celebrated as a day to value mom's around the world and honor all that they are, but for many men and women, it is a double edge sword of broken moments.

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Michelle is a regular contributor for the Huffington Post. Below is a list of all her articles you will find published @HuffPost.

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I originally wrote this as a "guest blog" piece for https://www.thedaddyletters.com and it is shared on that website as well. You can follow The Daddy Letters on Facebook and Instagram at https://www.facebook.com/TheDaddyLetters/?hc_ref=PAGES_TIMELINE&fref=nf

Lach has created a beautiful blog and place to share his letters for his young children. Here is my contribution for Mother's Day, 2017.

Dear Addison and Matthew~

It's Mother's Day on Sunday which doesn't seem like that big of a deal to me. In my world, I chose you, and therefore I wanted to be a mother, and I wouldn't change a thing. For the first few years of your life, I was a mother lost in the crazy, all-consuming life of parenthood, worrying about your developmental milest...

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Overwhelming stress and grief will take their toll on nearly every person who walks the face of this earth at one point or another. Finding new, healthy, and positive ways to deal with these situations is critical to our health and well-being.

Exercise is a game changer for those in need of healthy stress relief. This free form of therapy can change your life from the inside out.

Let me show you how?

#1 - Positive Endorphins

When you exercise, your body releases chemicals called endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain. Positive endorphins can change your day and take you from a negative mood to a positive mood in less than 20 minutes. Even a short walk has been scientific...

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Permission To Rise

By Michelle

I give you permission to rise.

I realize you don't need my permission, but there are days where we all need someone to tell us it's okay.

I'm a 44-year-old woman who has lived through more than my fair share of crap in this life from poor self-image, weight difficulties, widowhood in my mid-thirties, and solo parenting of two babies. I also thrived as a woman in a corporate job surrounded by men and leaving that job to start my own business and nonprofit.

I'm a 44-year-old woman who has seen 88-years of life in my 44 years of time, and this is what I want to tell you...

You have permission to rise.

You have permission to love your body right now, regardless of what you weigh or what anyone else thinks of it. The only person in this...

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As a fitness coach, I see trends people who want to change their life through fitness. Clients get so wrapped up in the "correct" way to exercise and eat and that perfectionism ends up making the new lifestyle cumbersome, stifling and overwhelming. Within weeks their great intentions turn to giving up.

We are guilty culturally of making this harder than it should be for the average person. Sure, if you are a professional athlete, bodybuilder or fitness model some formulas can take you to a level of perfection, but for the average person looking to live a better life, it is not as difficult as advertised by the diet and fitness industry.

Here is a super simple formula to head down the road to fitness success. Don't over think it, just mak...

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You Should Stay

By Michelle

When tragedy happens everyone runs to be by your side. The beauty of human nature in the midst of unthinkable circumstances can be truly inspiring, and profoundly encouraging.

You hear every kind, sincere and beautiful promise possible by people who believe in everything they say.

"I promise to help you on the hard days.

I promise to teach the kids about their Dad/Mom.

I promise never to forget.

I promise to step up and play a role.

I promise to be by your side when you cry or just need a friend.

I promise to say their name.

I promise to stay...."

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It’s lonely.


In fact, lonely is not a strong enough word to grasp the depth of aloneness that becomes your life after loss. You are desperately and hopelessly alone regardless of how many people surround you, love you, care about you.


You can be in the center of a room that is filled with family, friends, and acquaintances and yet it still feels as if you are invisible. It’s as if you are floating above your body not participating in life as you knew it before death knocked at your door and left you reeling from its cold, hard grasp.

The loneliness is so extreme that I’ve seen people do anything to avoid it. In fact, I’ve seen myself do anything to avoid it. We run away to corners of the world searching to feel co...

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I Can’t Fix This

By Michelle

My son was 13 months when he lost his father. He holds no memories of his daddy and never asks questions or brings him up. He is a happy, well-adjusted, smart, and lovable five years old. He just also happens to be a kid who’s dad died way too young. Truth be told, I don’t worry about my son nearly as much as I do my daughter, because she was a little older and seems to have a harder time with her loss.

This all changed yesterday.

As we drove to school my little man piped up from the backseat and said:

“Mommy, I miss my real daddy.”

Just like that, out of the random blue, and like a sword, through my heart, he uttered those words that rendered me utterly speechless. Through quiet tears and a cracked-voiced, I simp...

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